April 28, 2023

X - To Be a Writer, You Don't Need...XOXO + BONUS


You don’t need love to be a writer...and by that, I mean you don’t need to have ever loved or been loved back by a significant other, by someone special, to write about love. You may not be in love right now, but you may write the sweetest romances. You could be a damn good romance author and have never been in a serious relationship. You could write the most realistic love scenes and have never been kissed. You could have a broken heart but write the most beautiful love stories with the best happily-ever-after endings. You may have never been and may never be married, but you could write about married characters people love and wish they knew...even wish they were.

That is the beauty of our imaginations. We can conjure things in our minds and make them real with our words. That, my friends, is the power of being a writer.

You won’t always have gone through the same things as your characters, but you can still write about them. You may not have experienced true love or love at first sight or love period, but you know your fantasies. You know your heart.

I have never been in a tsunami, and yet I wrote an amazingly realistic tsunami scene and the aftermath. I have never done half the things my characters have done or gone through what they have endured, but I write their stories as realistically as I can. I have never been in the sort of relationship my characters Beth and Donovan are in, but that didn’t stop me from writing about their love, from the moment they meet through all of the steps of a strong, loving partnership. I hear lovely feedback from readers about these characters and their love for one another. Someone once asked if there is or ever was a man like Donovan in my life. I created a YouTube video about it and published it to my channel.

No, there is not and has not been a man like Donovan in my life, and maybe that’s why he’s so great. Maybe that’s why I enjoyed writing about him.

Even if you’ve never experienced true love, love at first sight, or any level of love with a significant other, you could use your fantasies, your hopes, and your dreams to write romance stories that others can relate to, because many people will want those same things. When you can tap into your own desires, it becomes a powerful thing.

You may not have love in the real world, but you do in your story’s world.

Enjoy it!



X - X Marks the Spot

Where is the X? The X is the location of, usually, tressure. This time the location is the setting, or one of the settings, for Alien Killer, the third novella I'll be sharing exclusively on Patreon.

So...where is the X?

Area 51, Earth.

Alien Killer is inspired by the short story I wrote for We Know the Truth, Do You? An Anthology to Celebrate the Raid. The anthology was created to have fun with an event created in 2019 where people planned to (in jest, mostly) to storm/raid Area 51. I wrote Detective Heavenborn for the anthology while recovering on the couch after having surgery to remove an ovarian cyst and endometriosis.

I had no intention to make this story longer until I was considering novellas I would write and publish on Patreon. Suddenly, the idea came to me for how that story could continue from where it left off, and it's going to be fun and action-packed like never before.

To read Universal Killer, Cocky Killer, Alien Killer, and all future Avrianna Heavenborn novellas on Patreon, become a patron for just $5.00 a month. You get access to special perks, too, and you pay-it-forward to a good cause because 10% of all earnings go to StandUp for Kids, a charity that helps homeless American youth.


  1. One of my favorite romance writers has stated on her blog and at cons that she is asexual (and mostly aromantic). Just because you never loved (or killed a person or held someone's hand as they cried out a loss) doesn't mean you can't write all about it. Imagination is a wonderful thing.

    1. Oh! I'm actually asexual, too. Now I wonder which author you're talking about. I'd love to support her.

  2. I wrote a scene about skydiving for a short story class. The teacher started to ask if I'd ever been skydiving, but then stopped and said that he didn't want to know. It was so realistic that he assumed that I had been and didn't want to know if I hadn't. I hadn't.

    1. Sometimes, we can just have a knack--an inner knowing--how to write the things we've never experienced. Or, of course, a ton of research helps. lol

  3. Imagination is a wonderful thing.

  4. Hey, I didn't even realize you were doing A to Z this year! Snuck in at the end!

    I have read some descriptions of love, sex and romance that really made me question whether the author had experienced any of them before... maybe they're just not very imaginative,. 😐 I'm sure I've also read believable scenes by people who haven't.

    1. Yup. :)

      You can't know someone's experience when it comes to their writing of love, sex, and romance. The problem is, some people, even experienced people, just can't write those scenes. They don't know how to, don't like to, don't want to, etc.

  5. Good post. I obviously haven't broken the Veil between worlds myself to have a character go on a journey to mend it... LOL.

    Ronel visiting for X:
    My Languishing TBR: X
    Experiments Galore: Hephaestus

    1. There's nothing wrong with having a character go through something to help you mend, heal, experience, etc. :)