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July 14, 2020

Write a Letter to Your Fear / Except from Keep Writing with Fey

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Write a Letter to Your Fear
I don’t know where I read about this practice, but I discovered it somewhere. Late July of 2014, I wrote a letter to Fear, as if it was a living, breathing being; and it is, it really is. In the letter I mentally donned boxing gloves to go one-on-one with my fear…my depression. The words I wrote are fighting words. I wanted my fear to know I was serious, that it wouldn’t beat me. Reading it back now, I believe myself, even if there was niggling doubt buried somewhere beneath the words when I penned them. My sentences are fierce, and I picture a strong woman writing them, although, at the time, I lived my days feeling small and insignificant.

Here’s my letter:
You think you’re smarter than me? You think you can beat me? Well, I’ve got news for you. I have strengths you’ve never considered. Every time you give me a dose of poison, my body takes it in, and now I am immune to the fear you administer.
I’ve lived through a childhood riddled with fights.
I’ve lived through my half-brother’s abuse.
I’ve lived through the immense pain of spinal surgery.
I’ve lived through the period when I didn’t have a place to call home.
I’ve lived through the shame of not having a high school diploma.
I’ve lived through depression.
I’ve lived through betrayal.
I’ve lived through hopelessness.
I’ve lived through the ups and downs of being a writer.
I’ve lived…
And I will continue to live through my current hardships.
I’ll live through this poverty.
I’ll live through this stress.
I’ll live through it all.
You can throw more obstacles, more pain, more everything at me, but I’ll live through all of that, too. Just watch. Watch and see how you will fail miserably in your attempt to break me fully, forever. It won’t work. I won’t allow it.
I will not fear failure.
I will not fear being alone.
I will not fear publishing another book.
I will not fear YOU!
Because, you see, all the fear you have given me has made me infinitely stronger than I ever would’ve been without it. So, yes, I will live.
Your Worst Enemy
Chrys Fey

Write your own letter to Fear. Start with a list of the hardships you’ve survived so far. Then look to your current hardships and make it clear to your Fear that you won’t let it beat you with those weapons. End your letter with statements about what you won’t fear anymore.
Keep that letter. Later, when you come across it again, you’ll see a strong person behind those words, stronger than you may feel while writing them, because we all have strength in us, even when we feel the most powerless. It’s in you at this very moment.

In my journal, there’s a note scribbled atop a page a few sheets beyond this letter which says, “I’ve learned to rely on myself, to pursue my dreams no matter what, and that what others do to me makes me stronger.”
What have you learned?

SHARE: What would you tell Fear?


L. Diane Wolfe said...

Put fear in its place.

Congrats, Chrys! I know this is a work of the heart.

Chrys Fey said...

Thank you, Diane! It really is a work of the heart. So many personal stories are in it, and it means a lot to me. :)

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Congratulations! You sure told fear.

Chrys Fey said...

Thank you! I did. I had to. :)

nashvillecats2 said...

Thank you Chrys must try writing that letter, what a wonderful thing to do.

Annalisa Crawford said...

Congrats on your new release!

Chrys Fey said...

Thank you so much, Annalisa!

Chrys Fey said...

Hi, Yvonne! It's a very therapeutic method. I found that it gave me confidence and strength.

Jemi Fraser said...

Love it!! Fear is a strong opponent, but you put it in its place!

Liz A. said...

That is a good idea. They say to write letters to people you can't talk to. I hadn't considered writing letters to emotions that you feel are overwhelming.

Juneta key said...

Congrats, Chrys!

Elizabeth Seckman said...

Now is the perfect time to give fear a kick in the pants!

Natalie Aguirre said...

That's a great way to confront fear. Congrats on your new book!

Beverly Stowe McClure said...

Very powerful words. You are awesome.

Madeline Mora-Summonte said...

Congratulations on the new book, Chrys! Wishing you much success!

Chrys Fey said...

I like to think I did. :)

Chrys Fey said...

It's a great way to feel in control of our emotions.

Chrys Fey said...

Thank you so much, Juneta!

Chrys Fey said...


Chrys Fey said...

Thank you, Natalie! It works, too. :)

Chrys Fey said...

Aw. Thank you, Beverly!

Chrys Fey said...

Thank you so much, Madeline!

Sandra Cox said...

You've come through so much and now you're finely-forged writing steel.

Kate Larkindale said...

Good luck with the new release! I think it's something a lot of writers need to read.

sherry fundin said...

i have been loving your writing books. you make it so simple to understand and supply so many good tips, whether writing a book, a review, or anything else
sherry @ fundinmental

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Chrys - excellent letter ... and love the excerpt from your new book - it will definitely inspire many. You really have overcome so much ... congratulations and good luck with the tour and book - stay safe - Hilary

Jeff said...

I like the idea of writing a letter to fear. We live in a world where fear is used to manipulate us (whether it is buying tooth paste or to vote for a candidate). Much of our fear is not real and we could all understand this, we'd be a lot better off as a nation.

Anonymous said...

I LOVE your letter to fear! You are so empowered! I'm so proud of you and your strength!

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Chrys Fey said...

"finely-forged writing steel" I love that. Thank you!

Chrys Fey said...

Thank you so much, Kate!

Chrys Fey said...

Thank you so much, Sherry! Hearing that makes me so happy. <3

Chrys Fey said...

Thank you so very much, Hillary!

Chrys Fey said...

Exactly. Fear is something we can conquer and control and show who is BOSS!

Chrys Fey said...

Thank you, Elsie! Writing that letter was very empowering. <3