tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post6390105771149277604..comments2024-03-12T18:52:31.920-04:00Comments on Write with Fey: Bullying Awareness ProjectChrys Feyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comBlogger52125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-38429244260836109672015-10-19T16:29:39.198-04:002015-10-19T16:29:39.198-04:00You're right. Parents have to step up, take ac...You're right. Parents have to step up, take action, and pay attention. Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-17403626728471997372015-10-19T16:04:13.819-04:002015-10-19T16:04:13.819-04:00That sucks! Boy are dumb. Especially the ones we h...That sucks! Boy are dumb. Especially the ones we have crushes on who bully us. I wasn't beaten up either, but I did get pushed around.Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-46004898301885054252015-10-19T16:03:18.148-04:002015-10-19T16:03:18.148-04:00That is awesome that you took up wrestling and ROT...That is awesome that you took up wrestling and ROTC. I had wanted to join ROTC but then I was diagnosed with scoliosis.<br /><br />OUCH! I can't even imagine what it would feel like to have your earrings pulled out of your ears. *cringes*Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-41057741243675403482015-10-19T16:01:42.355-04:002015-10-19T16:01:42.355-04:00Cyber bullying is a nightmare. It can get so nasty...Cyber bullying is a nightmare. It can get so nasty on the Internet. And the fact that cyber bullying means the victim can't even escape it at home.Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-1352896771501188292015-10-19T16:00:52.309-04:002015-10-19T16:00:52.309-04:00I was bullied for the same things. :(I was bullied for the same things. :(Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-53304109845832916572015-10-19T15:59:17.908-04:002015-10-19T15:59:17.908-04:00Threatened with a knife? That's horrible. And ...Threatened with a knife? That's horrible. And the fact that the school admins did do a damn thing. I don't get it. They need to protect their students. All of them.Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-24460560333643119722015-10-19T15:58:18.856-04:002015-10-19T15:58:18.856-04:00That would be great!
WHAT? Women can be so catty....That would be great!<br /><br />WHAT? Women can be so catty. Well, you got the man, so that lady is a rude idiot!Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-38239444269376088572015-10-19T15:56:52.072-04:002015-10-19T15:56:52.072-04:00I hope it makes an impact n your six year olds!I hope it makes an impact n your six year olds!Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-37634612070166864722015-10-19T04:07:29.785-04:002015-10-19T04:07:29.785-04:00Oh wow, I'm sorry to hear you were bullied in ...Oh wow, I'm sorry to hear you were bullied in school and at home, Chrys. I was teased for being skinny, too. By older boys from another class ~ one of whom I had a tiny crush on, so that wasn't a good, healthy-self-esteem period for me. Fortunately, I was never pushed around or beaten up. The gingerbread activity is great in its effect. We get to see the rips and that is a sobering moment.Yanting Guehhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04788603550626277974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-63247045066236184912015-10-18T15:08:13.407-04:002015-10-18T15:08:13.407-04:00That's a good assignment to do with kids.
I ...That's a good assignment to do with kids. <br /><br />I was bullied as a child and it wasn't until I was in my first year of high school that I decided to put a stop to it. I took up wrestling on the female wrestling team and we had to work out in the weight room every day in order to be on the team. I got stronger and took one semester of ROTC and that class gave me more confidence. So the next time the girl who had been bullying me for 6 long years came at me and pushed me down, I beat the hell out of her. Broke her nose, gave her a black eye and had her down on the ground before I was pulled off her. I had my earrings pulled right out of my ears and had to go to the ER to have my ears sewn back up but she never bullied me again and neither did anyone else. We have to teach our kids to stand up for themselves, that's the only way to stop bully's. Mary Kirklandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04991095291522043588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-79461422366151313862015-10-18T11:55:17.751-04:002015-10-18T11:55:17.751-04:00I don't remember being bullied, but I had an o...I don't remember being bullied, but I had an older brother who was quite protective. I was at a cocktail party last week, speaking with a mom and she said one thing that really scares here is cyber bullying. She has three kids are just old enough to have social media. It's so sad how many are bullied and cyber bullying is scary. TBMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12062603677194826834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-68667775751627888382015-10-16T23:52:41.662-04:002015-10-16T23:52:41.662-04:00That's a great way to visually show the harm b...That's a great way to visually show the harm bullying does. I was bullied for being skinny, for being poor in a school of upper middle class kids, and for being weird. Maryland was a different place from Colorado.Shannon Lawrencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934641808195675935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-65005968769093374322015-10-16T10:08:05.556-04:002015-10-16T10:08:05.556-04:00what a great project! I wasn't really bullied ...what a great project! I wasn't really bullied but my brother was terribly, even threatened with a knife, and the school admin did NOTHING ABOUT IT. They even said my brother must have been instigating the bullies. It was such a nightmare for my family.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07181207761130079393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-41981904647267508912015-10-16T05:45:02.829-04:002015-10-16T05:45:02.829-04:00That really is a great project. I think I'll d...That really is a great project. I think I'll do it with my mushy as she gets a little older. <br /><br />Fortunately, I did not get bullied as a child. But, about 5 years ago, my husband and I started dating and I did get bullied. I was ridiculed by the women that had a crush on him saying I was too ugly for him and that I had a big nose. It's funny because even though I was in my 20s, this still really bothered me.Jaxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15942630725082121374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-72141586839223205842015-10-15T20:11:22.683-04:002015-10-15T20:11:22.683-04:00I love this project and am going to try it out wit...I love this project and am going to try it out with the group of six year olds I lead. As for me, I wasn't bullied too bad in high school but I don't think anyone gets through unscathed. I chose to home school my own children. Rhonda Albomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17455873487349816911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-58076940638757651902015-10-15T13:01:40.154-04:002015-10-15T13:01:40.154-04:00You are right that some do grow out of it and some...You are right that some do grow out of it and some even apologize. I find the parents need to take that active part but often the parents don't either because they are so busy, see their kid through rose-coloured glasses or are bullies themselves. I like Karma but I also like growth. It is good to learn from the past whether one was a bully or a victim so one does not continue to walk down that same path since neither is healthyBirgithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09439720285857050428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-26420832750706061772015-10-15T12:11:09.454-04:002015-10-15T12:11:09.454-04:00That's sad. I remember when my sisters would t...That's sad. I remember when my sisters would tease me about writing. I felt so stupid and self-conscious for writing that I tried to hide it. And then when other kids would ask me what I wrote, I wouldn't tell them because I was afraid they'd make fun of me.Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-30519672782699477142015-10-15T11:53:19.401-04:002015-10-15T11:53:19.401-04:00I was. :)I was. :)Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-45562272727824190992015-10-15T11:53:05.689-04:002015-10-15T11:53:05.689-04:00It has gotten worse. So much worse. Now it's n...It has gotten worse. So much worse. Now it's not just at school. Bullying follows kids home through social media where it can get especially nasty.Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-62795240406627468252015-10-15T11:51:44.950-04:002015-10-15T11:51:44.950-04:00I bet you were an amazing teacher! :)I bet you were an amazing teacher! :)Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-1803644261960286632015-10-15T11:50:54.431-04:002015-10-15T11:50:54.431-04:00You were smart! I was best friends with a popular ...You were smart! I was best friends with a popular girl...a cheerleader...and I was still bullied.Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-43450938006303562072015-10-15T11:50:18.782-04:002015-10-15T11:50:18.782-04:00Exactly. That's why it's important for par...Exactly. That's why it's important for parents, aunts/uncles, grandparents to keep a close eye on the children in our lives for signs of being a bully and being bullied, so we can do something about it before it's too late.Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-53174890395888925942015-10-15T11:49:03.264-04:002015-10-15T11:49:03.264-04:00I'm so sorry that you went through all of that...I'm so sorry that you went through all of that. My heart broke while reading the things you endured. I'm glad you had your parents and your brother. <3<br /><br />You're right that some bullies enjoy inflicting pain. That's the sad state of our world. I do believe that most childhood bullies end up growing out of it and learning from their mistakes. Not all do, though. There are certainly many adult bullies out there, and bullies in every place we can find ourselves during our lives. <br /><br />If parents teach this lesson to children when they are young enough, maybe six years old, set an example for their children, actively teach them right from wrong, and keep the dialogue open about bullying (especially at the start of each school year or when something pops up in the news about a child being bullied) then I believe children will learn. It's important for parents to know that doing something like this once won't stick. They have to continue to do it and be a role model too. They have to also pay attention for those moments where their child takes on the role of being a bully.<br /><br />I think we all hope that our bullies ended up fat, alone, unsuccessful, etc....karma. That's normal because of all the pain they put us through, but I have seen my biggest bully from elementary school grow out of it and become a loving mother. I'm not friends with her. of course, but I know some who are. So it is possible.Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-6423627170481509932015-10-15T03:24:11.276-04:002015-10-15T03:24:11.276-04:00Hi Chrys .. it's so important to remind us all...Hi Chrys .. it's so important to remind us all about bullying - as once it's settled in it's a habit - and that leads on to worse things. Dealing with bullying is so difficult. I had some - but thankfully it was too awful. Cheers HilaryHilary Melton-Butcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17596532480645510678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-71747258976858350412015-10-14T23:44:24.518-04:002015-10-14T23:44:24.518-04:00This is a good way to teach but some bullies love ...This is a good way to teach but some bullies love tearing off the limbs and not learning. I guess I am jaded a bit. I was severely bullied throughout my school years until I went to University. I was shy, I loved art, classical music and old film stars so that put a bull's eye on my chest. In grade school I had a nickname I still can't say because I would be told that was all I was worth. I was beaten and once I had to face down 6 girls who came to beat me up. I faced them down and told them they were cowards and they left me alone. In high school it got worse. I was told I was ugly and spat on by boys in one hall. Every year I ended up at the emergency because someone would try to break my fingers or hand (the right one). Little did I know they couldn't since I have Ehlers-Danlos(I am hypermobile) but my hands and fingers were often severely sprained. I once was picked up by my throat by a couple of girls and told they would slice my throat from ear to ear if they ever caught me alone. I could hardly breathe and my feet were not touching the floor. I was told to commit suicide because every one would be better off if I were not around especially my parents. I wish I could say that was the first time I heard that my throat would be slit but my first time was when I was 7 (that's another story). Needless to say, I was often sick and stayed home and went within. I give my parents the reason i am still here and my brother. I visited him in University and was treated so well my eyes opened up to the wonders of what the future would hold. I consider myself a strong person and vowed never to treat anyone like that ever. I can't help but hope some of these girls are fat and alone. Sorry but I don't think kids like that grow out of being bullies. Some do but most become bullies in the work force. If one shows no fear, tell them to hit the road and ignore them, they become very, very small.Birgithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09439720285857050428noreply@blogger.com