tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post4080110155241598719..comments2024-03-12T18:52:31.920-04:00Comments on Write with Fey: How to Handle RejectionChrys Feyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comBlogger74125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-17105649655223983872015-03-23T11:12:38.861-04:002015-03-23T11:12:38.861-04:00My skin is thicker too. I think that's the goo...My skin is thicker too. I think that's the good thing about dealing with so much rejection. Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-28516422584518640372015-03-22T17:47:54.710-04:002015-03-22T17:47:54.710-04:00I love posts about dealing with rejection, since i...I love posts about dealing with rejection, since it's pretty much a neverending thing as a writer. I think what I dislike the most is when people don't respond at all. And it's even worse if it's a friend who offered to read something of yours, and then you just never hear from them again. *sigh*<br /><br />But my skin is way thicker than it used to be. Colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03971798802079783209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-89171339991355579732015-03-18T11:29:46.029-04:002015-03-18T11:29:46.029-04:00Thanks, Lori!Thanks, Lori!Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-89346036030536628272015-03-18T11:28:52.219-04:002015-03-18T11:28:52.219-04:00Some advice doesn't work for your stories and ...Some advice doesn't work for your stories and that's up for us to decide. I like that you're not going to change your protagonist to a female. There does need to be more male YA protagonists.Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-72321837356233165982015-03-18T11:26:18.525-04:002015-03-18T11:26:18.525-04:00Thank you so much for signing up, Donna! :DThank you so much for signing up, Donna! :DChrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-7791964161089525692015-03-18T11:25:36.908-04:002015-03-18T11:25:36.908-04:00That's good!That's good!Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-32028128495929834242015-03-18T11:25:16.603-04:002015-03-18T11:25:16.603-04:00Exactly! Feedback lets you know they really looked...Exactly! Feedback lets you know they really looked at your work and considered it.Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-85196554992759627322015-03-17T22:47:33.871-04:002015-03-17T22:47:33.871-04:00Don't give up! Great advice, Chrys!Don't give up! Great advice, Chrys!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-80890368057601759092015-03-17T21:51:15.561-04:002015-03-17T21:51:15.561-04:00Hi, Chrys,
You are so right about rejections. WE ...Hi, Chrys,<br /><br />You are so right about rejections. WE DO KNOW that our stories are a good fit for them...why else would we waste our time sending a query to them?<br /><br />I've certainly had my share of rejects, but NOW I am actually getting PERSONAL reject letters and I do appreciate them and heed their advice. BUT also remember this is THEIR opinion. <br /><br />I had a rejection from a TOP TOP TOP NY agent. She liked my premise and would have wanted to read more BUT because my portage was a male and my book is Y/A she had felt it was too hard a sell to push it out there. She wasn't in LOVE with it enough to break down the stigma of female y/a portags. <br /><br />So I put her advice on the back burner. Since then I had been to two SCBWI conferences, the HUGE one in NYC in February and a mid west regional a few weeks ago. Guess what? ALL liked the male portag and though it was new and fresh. AND the market is READY for it. <br /><br />So you see, this industry is VERY subjective and as you had said KEEP at it and don't give up!Michael Di Gesuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17047267262428143113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-73500219960437083762015-03-17T20:18:28.652-04:002015-03-17T20:18:28.652-04:00Yes, rejections hurt! I try my best to take it as ...Yes, rejections hurt! I try my best to take it as a learning experience. To me submitting your manuscript is like one's college essay it either resonates with the reader or it doesn't. There is no rhyme or reason. I'd be delighted to host you during your VBT. I just submitted the form!Donna McDinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00959673932828354020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-88255780805013308162015-03-17T19:10:24.094-04:002015-03-17T19:10:24.094-04:00Scotch.... not really, but I have certainly recei...Scotch.... not really, but I have certainly received my share of rejection letters, but have also received many acceptance letters and some great rejections with suggestions that have made the piece much better. sagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17499891950639742366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-54749795294314492512015-03-17T18:42:54.059-04:002015-03-17T18:42:54.059-04:00Form rejections are maddening because you've g...Form rejections are maddening because you've got no idea if they dismissed it out of hand or if they were close to accepting it. I think feedback, even if it's only one line, is gold dust!Nick Wilfordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03841776353790635132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-10036835118926394012015-03-17T16:25:30.880-04:002015-03-17T16:25:30.880-04:00Thanks, Lux! Those old rejections don't even b...Thanks, Lux! Those old rejections don't even bother me now. But I do still get them.Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-32435948115728212952015-03-17T16:24:20.574-04:002015-03-17T16:24:20.574-04:00Don't let your fear stop you, Jeffery. You'...Don't let your fear stop you, Jeffery. You'll never get published if you don't try. I had to tell myself that. It took awhile to get over the hurt every time I got a rejection, but I grew from it. And growing from rejection is a beautiful thing. Go for it!Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-87959021110701440192015-03-17T15:45:53.936-04:002015-03-17T15:45:53.936-04:00All those rejections in the past but look at you n...All those rejections in the past but look at you now! I guess it has to happen so you could fully appreciate your blessings today. :)<br /><br />As many normal humans, I get hurt with rejection. But I guess my optimism gets me back on track. Try and try and try. :)Lux G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00557863683608790087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-91810907905784291932015-03-17T14:18:12.761-04:002015-03-17T14:18:12.761-04:00I'm ashamed to admit I've never actually s...I'm ashamed to admit I've never actually sent anything in. In a way I'm afraid, and I recall George McFly, what if no one likes it? Or worse. What if I hear, you're not any good. I should make this the year I actually buckle down and try to get something published. It's nice to know, rejections are a normal process. I'll try to keep that in mind. Thanks for your blog. I've been reading a lot of great information.Jeffrey Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06973104877310669196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-69609061607639610702015-03-17T13:22:03.184-04:002015-03-17T13:22:03.184-04:00Taking the advice that comes with a rejection real...Taking the advice that comes with a rejection really does make our stories better. :)Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-10324678118698550322015-03-17T13:21:34.925-04:002015-03-17T13:21:34.925-04:00You're lucky, Medeia! :)You're lucky, Medeia! :)Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-48809198216862642142015-03-17T13:21:02.325-04:002015-03-17T13:21:02.325-04:00That's the one that gets to me the worse too. ...That's the one that gets to me the worse too. I have a ton of rejections for my short stories too. I stopped shopping them but I'm sure I'd have a ton more if I continued.<br /><br />Yes, it's when we have hope when the rejection hurts the worse.Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-67108180896745940992015-03-17T13:19:31.266-04:002015-03-17T13:19:31.266-04:00You're right about that, Liz.You're right about that, Liz.Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-15838327907764393452015-03-17T13:19:04.958-04:002015-03-17T13:19:04.958-04:00It would be nice to receive feedback. ;)
Thanks, ...It would be nice to receive feedback. ;)<br /><br />Thanks, Denise! I'll be emailing you soon. :)Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-18125638868750226742015-03-17T13:18:02.877-04:002015-03-17T13:18:02.877-04:00It's hard not too. Rejection always feels pers...It's hard not too. Rejection always feels personal, but after a while the sting will lessen, though not go away entirely, and you'll be able to move on quickly after it.Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-16404969695095401642015-03-17T13:17:18.630-04:002015-03-17T13:17:18.630-04:00Haha! Yes, it does. ;)Haha! Yes, it does. ;)Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-4993052138229888172015-03-17T13:17:02.331-04:002015-03-17T13:17:02.331-04:00Rejected with a stamp? Sheesh.Rejected with a stamp? Sheesh.Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133489888936435050.post-72609472899408764702015-03-17T13:16:22.914-04:002015-03-17T13:16:22.914-04:00I do keep my rejections. At least until I publish ...I do keep my rejections. At least until I publish the story and then I delete them. Chrys Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11955009490266358041noreply@blogger.com